WHAT KIND OF FRIEND ARE YOU?
Tuesday, January 26th, 2010
DENIS KELLMAN’S COLUMN’S – THE DEBATE
BARBADOS ADVOCATE
December 22, 2006
Christmas is a time for sharing, caring and giving. I have already said that it is better to give than to receive, because if you give to receive, you will end up with hope and no returns. On the other hand, if you donate, you do not have an expectation for returns and you end up saving that portion which you could not afford. One should only offer what can easily be converted to an expense.
Friends are persons that will not abuse or embarrass you. In life, there are various categories and one should also assume that this applies to friendship. You have friends that will move the moon to accommodate you, some who will respond to your request without prompting or a little prompting, and some who would use your loyalty and then disappear in times of need. The best friend is the one that will not abuse and will accept your word.
Christ came to this world and even though He was the Son, He was forsaken, and one should see life based on that occurrence. Too many people see the negative out of a negative, but persons like us, seek to find the positive out of everything.
A friend is a person that will not bad talk you and is always prepared to defend you. Most of the times when you are not defended are on those occasions that the person sees self ahead of friendship. I have been around long enough to know who would defend me and who would look after self first. Doing good is not a crime and one should never allow the evil of others to deter your goal.
Peter was very close to Christ, but he denied Him thrice. So if Christ could be denied, who is man to believe that he would not be denied? Even though you would have been denied, you should never allow hatred to overtake you. What you should do is to use the occasion to create some positivity. Christ has shown us that negativity is no good and that positivity develops wealth.
Christ came to this world to do good, but His detractors did everything to destroy Him. When they crucified Him, they thought they had achieved the ultimate goal, only to find themselves repenting more than celebrating.
This Christmas time is not about the goodies you have, but a season of reflection on the good things you have done in the interest of others. Does it make sense to gain the whole world and have no friends? The beauty of life is the ability to deliver outside of the public’s eye. To be genuine does not allow you to walk with a camera. What is done by you for the poor should never be recorded. Many persons have given us things and we would not have appreciated the public being made aware.
I want to wish everyone a Merry Christmas and a Prosperous New Year.
Peace, love, sharing, unity, wisdom and understanding.



